Learn these 4 routines for a successful relationship | “Aura Rule”

If we want to experience a long-term successful relationship, then there is no way around the work and energy that we invest. Routines can help us because they offer us a clear framework. We don't have to think about what our partner's needs are at the moment every week if we have a plan for how we can properly invest in our relationship. The "Aura Rule" is a simple strategy that tries to provide a clear pattern so that our relationship has a framework that we can fill with content.

The 4 routines are:

1. Recognition. It comes in many different ways. It can be words that tell your partner how grateful you are for him or her. Or actions like helping around the house, making the kids' snacks or cleaning the car. Small gifts also give our partner the feeling that they are important to us. Often it is the simple things that you integrate into your everyday life like a WhatsApp message during your lunch break or a kiss when you get up that make a long-term difference. Even if they seem insignificant to you, these things create a web of trust in your relationship.
2. Activities . A couple needs regular, focused time in which they can talk to each other and exchange ideas about current topics and feelings. If we take one evening (a few hours) each week just the two of us, then our relationship won't break down. This time should not only include conversation, but also an activity together. It doesn't have to be an excursion, but can be a walk or a meal. Set regular appointments in your calendar and prioritize this time in your everyday life. If you have been together for a long time and are sometimes lacking inspiration on how to plan exciting dates, then be sure to check out WILDLY!
3. Reflection . We only make progress in our lives if we take the time to reflect. If we take time every month, alone or together, to reflect on our relationship and set new goals, our relationship will experience enormous growth. Simple questions help us to reflect: What did we set out to do last month? Did we achieve it? Why/why not? Do I feel good in our relationship? What would have to change so that I can trust each other more? It helps to get a shared notebook in which you can write down questions, goals and reflections. This way you can understand a process over the years and adapt it if necessary. Do you know the problem of arguing about a point such as the frequency of sex? There are often two different perceptions. In this case, clearly formulated goals and reflection can help.
4. Adventure . Plan vacations, hobbies and other adventures

The AURA Rule

A: Recognition

U: Company

R: reflection

A: Adventure

1. Daily Recognition
2. weekly activity
3. Monthly Reflection
4. Annual Adventures